Human Nature

happiness

 

During this uncertain time of COVID-19, I dive into a book recommended by a fellow book lover Cherie White. She loves reading psychology and introduces me to a book called The Laws of Human Nature by Robert Greene.

The book is thick yet a good read! It makes me confront my flaws and helps me understand myself and other people more. It has many great stories of legend such as Coco Chanel as examples to illustrate different human nature.

I love the story about how a captain saves the lives of his crew with his empathetic skills when facing dangerous storms. The captain infects the crew with his mindset on the nonverbal level by acting in a relaxing manner despite the difficult situations.

He is able to divide his attention almost equally between crew members. He reads their emotional states in their tone of voice and looks for any signs of frustration or insecurity in their words and gestures.

In detecting any dips in spirit or negativity, he is gentle and engages them in talk. He enters their spirit, and find indirect ways to either elevate their mood or isolate them without making them realize what he is doing. In the end, no one dies under the caption’s leadership.

After reading the whole book, I get a sense that self-awareness is the most important for us to be a better person. Self-awareness is the third eye. We need that to be more conscious of what we are experiencing.

I take a note of some parts from the book that I love and you can take a look to get the positivity to stay happy and creative:

Increase self-awareness

Examine your emotions:

Use a journal to record your self-assessments with objectivity. Observe your actions with a bit of detachment and even humor.

Increase your reaction time:

Step back and give it a day. We can stop reacting to everything. Cool the emotions.

Practice empathy

Don’t change people. Instead, see other people as neutral as comets or plants. They simply exist. They come in all varieties, making life rich and interesting. Work with what they give you, instead of resisting and trying to change them. Make understanding people a fun game, the solving of puzzles.

Open your mind to seeing people in a new light. Each person you meet is like an undiscovered country. This flexible, open spirit is similar to creative energy – a willingness to consider more possibilities and options.

The key to employing empathy within a relationship is to understand the value system of the other person. What they interpret as signs of love or attention or generosity tends to diverge from your way of thinking. Keeping in mind their value system will allow you to enter their spirit and perspective precisely at the moment you would normally turn defensive.

Change your attitude

How to view the world:
See yourself as an explorer. Leave all that certainty behind you. You’re in continual search of new ideas and new ways of thinking.

How to view adversity:
Embrace all the obstacles as learning experiences, as a means of getting stronger.

How to view yourself:
Whatever you are doing now, you are in fact capable of much more.

How to view other people:
See people as facts of nature. They come in all varieties, like flowers or rocks. You must accept diversity and the fact that people are what they are. Your open, generous spirit will make your social interactions much smoother, and people will be drawn to you.

You must recognize your state of self-absorption and how little you actually observe. Open up your senses and relate to people more on the physical level. Pay deep attention to the moods of people, as indicated by their body language and tone of voice.

Happy reading!

39 thoughts on “Human Nature

  1. I’m so glad you enjoyed the book! I did too- immensely! And I learned so much! I will wrote a post in the future, entitled “Books for the Bullied” and recommend that book and several others I think would be gems for bullied people to read.

    Wishing you many, many blessings!

  2. I like what you said about people, viewing them as nature and as the same way we see plants is a big necessity. The world has reformed over the years to a more relaxed environment where anyone and everyone can have their views about life and the entirety of living.
    And understanding how human nature works is a plus one today than it was maybe centuries ago.
    Thanks for sharing.

  3. I must get around to reading this, it’s been on my reading list for ages! I’ve read Greene’s 48 laws of power which is excellent. Thanks for the post.

  4. You talked me into it. I intend to read it. When I do I’ll be back to get it through your link. I’ve just added a personal note (& this post link) to do so in my list of books yet to read : ) I prefer reading books with pages to flip. Btw, ‘site could not be reached’ on the first text link to the book.

    1. Thanks a lot Daen Renee!<3 I appreciate your friendly reminder and I just fixed the link. Thanks again! Hope you enjoy reading the book. It takes patience to finish as it's think. 🙂

  5. i would rather concentrate on a long book in this crisis time that impacts me deeply. As you say, we must learn to find more self examination via patience and the current slowdown seems the perfect time to do this

  6. I enjoyed your review. Great advice too! I especially need to increase my reaction time to situations that hurt me. Wonderful choices.

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