It’s amazing that happy couples can make love last. Is keeping yourself happy the key to a happy marriage? The good marriage sounds like a miracle when the divorce rate is high in modern days. First of all, do we have a definition of a good marriage? The book The Good Marriage has the answer.
What is a good marriage?
😍The idealization of the other is part of every happy marriage
💋Satisfying sex life
😇Grateful to each other for the changes they had experienced over the years
💑Talk about what we want for the future and let’s see what we have in common
🗣💕Set some time for talking about the relationship
🤲Give more than you expect to get
😜Keep interests alive by trying new things
😎Distinguish between big things and little things, knowing what’s important
🤗Mutual protection is at the heart of marriage
😢Provide emotional nurturance
⚖Fairness was far more important than exactly how the chores were allocated
When coping with a crisis, what would a happy couple do?
The Good Marriage shows that they protect each other against self-reproach and they don’t blame each other. They also take steps to allow some degree of pleasure and humor. Make a safe place for conflict and make it clear that the fighting will not breach the walls of the marriage. Hope everyone has the intention to keep a good marriage.
60 thoughts on “good marriage”
I would agree with all of this (says someone from a 10-year “good marriage” and an almost 20-year “good relationship). 🙂
You’re amazing to keep the good marriage for so long! ❤ Can you share some tips? 🙂
I actually wrote a whole blog post on it. 😉 I can share it if you’d like, or I could just give you a few highlights.
Yes, please share with me! ❤
This is the post I wrote about our 10-year wedding anniversary. The biggest piece of advice I have is marry your best friend (or figure out how to make your spouse that person). There’s other tips but that’s the big one. Everything else falls into place after that.
Best friend!<3 Thank you so much TranquilTrekker for your valuable advice. I appreciate your insights<3 I will try to do this. 🙂
Thanks for sharing. I’ll be sticking with this blog a lot more since I’ll be getting married in upcoming years.
I need all the information I can have.
Thanks for sharing!
❤ happy for you! Thanks for your support 😀
Good marriage not only is the foundation of good family but also of society
Yes, totally! ❤
Wow, what a great post. And it’s come into my InBox at an appropriate timing, because we need help! Thank you.
Hope you’re happy to keep a good marriage<3
Great post and very accurate
Thank you Zita ❤
I made a topic on this on my Podcast!
Could you kindly share the link with me? Would like to check it out. 🙂
Sure! Currently the mode of communication is Hindi. But soon I will be intermixing – Hindi and English for the audience to understand:
Very good posting fairness is important and lying corrupts trust
happy to hear from you Maurice ❤
You are welcome
The extraordinary expectations and desires beyond the reach, have taken a big toll on the relationships. Also, if someone is working too hard on a relationship then there is something amiss. A relationship should be natural and free-flowing.
Yes, I totally agree with what you said 🙂
37 years married this year and all I can say is no one can plan for an unknown future and nobody intends to have an unhappy or bad marriage. We simply wanted to be together, we started with nothing and life was not easy. Expect little and know that being together is more important than stuff, we are best friends, lovers, parents and all problems are shared discussed and solved, together.
Happy to hear your sharing!<3 "Expect little and know that being together is more important than stuff, we are best friends, lovers, parents and all problems are shared discussed and solved, together." Thanks for your insights, Maria. 😀
People say a good marriage is hard work. Our 33rd anniversary is due in July and, after a life of sometimes abundance but mostly extreme austerity, we are just more in love now than in 1987.
It is like a teenage walk in the clouds. Reciprocal hero worship. We make love all day, to each other’s minds. Our hearts get bonded and re-bonded. As that is where love-making really happens. And we have a very dynamic love triangle with Jesus central. Maybe He is our big secret for great loving.
We don’t need to work hard at a marriage when the love is real. And my darlingmost wificle is really burdened with a half crippled old geyser, reduced to little ability by diabetes, stroke and a knock to the spine. My heart is enlarged by about a third. I think that makes room for more love.
We touch a lot, we cuddle constantly. I suspect she has amnesia as I regularly has to say “I love you, I really do.” Sometimes, we even physically make love, which is always very pleasant, but the mere touch & cuddle is what really holds us together.
Our daughter just left her hubby, they didn’t even make a decade. They did mock the Almighty which is how I foresaw their divorce winking on the horizon. That was fatal to their union.
Sounds like wise advice, including that important statement: “Give more than you expect to get.” Sometimes people go into marriage expecting the other person to fulfill all their needs. But actually, the husband/wife who seeks ways to please the other actually enjoys a more satisfying marriage. Jesus was right: “It is more blessed to give than receive” (Acts 20:35). (Scientists have even proven the benefits of kindness not only for the recipient–as one would expect– but for the giver too.) P.S. My husband and I have been married for almost 50 years!
Wow! 50 years!<3 So amazing! I love that you highlight “It is more blessed to give than receive”. Totally agree!<3
Great advice on keeping a marriage alive. 🙂
thanks Renee ❤
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Thanks so much for the visit to my blog. What a lovely post – so true on all points. But I especially love how you adorned the list with emojis! Makes it way more fun and interesting to read. 👌🌷🙏🌻🎉🙌
haha thank you Lia!<3
Absolutely agree. 🙂
Hi Good morning,Helen? I want to know how long you have been married for?
I will further give u some input after your reply.
Hi Ravisingh, I’m not married. How about you? Would like to know your insights. 🙂
I am impressed with you that,though you are not married, you have such a good insight about good marrige
and married life.This is commendable!
By the way I am married,otherwise, i would have loved to propose and marry you!
haha hope you have a good marriage with your wife ❤
I keep my finger cross.I want to tell you something which is universally acclaimed and accepted
– “Marrige is a very yummy cake,you will regret it if you eat this cake and also regret if you don’t
eat it” I decided to taste and then regret it.What would you like to do?
I would like to taste it and no regrets or not to taste it and no regrets 🙂
If you could taste and no regret-that would be wonderful.Well you could be an exception!
Wonderful. No body teaches marriage, however it’s one of the most difficult subjects, as there is no tool book to deal with this. I would recommend 24×7 marriage. It’s written by a marriage counsellor expert.
Do you mean this book?
Cool, let me read this someday 🙂
You know, i just included emojis in one of my latest article and i got this beautiful idea from your post.
haha that’s cool! 😀
The Corona shutdown likely means you will be spending a lot more time with your significant other at home, Thus a true test of the quality of this relationship will thus be met on such closed confinement.
Wonderful thoughts 💕
THANKS vishal mishra ❤
Interesting book to read. I’ve been married for 8 years. The longer the year is better.
Good to know that, jessmite!<3
I can see lot of excellent posts here! Am glad that i found you Helen. 😍
Thank you Offshorewriter! I’m happy we get connected. ❤
Me too. 🤗🤗
Wish you happy happy and gud marriage!💝👍😊
thank you Abhishek Singh ❤